I agree with you...While I was living at home it didn't matter how old I was, the rules were the rules and you followed them! Once I was 18, I would be out past midnight with friends, but my mom ALWAYS knew where I was, and I always had to wake her when I got home so she didn't worry.
I had a very strict upbringing and I think both my brother and myself turned out pretty well.
R is a voracious reader...I monitor what she reads and occassionally I even pick up one of her books and read it myself to keep up with what she's taking in (Vampire novels are her current fav...You'd be surprised at how many HS vamp novels there are!). I monitor what she does on the web, what she watches on TV. Once she's older, these restrictions will relax, but I believe in very active participation in what my child does.
I remember when R was young and we were in line at a Toys R Us...the mother behind us let her son open a toy that they had not bought yet. That drives me NUTS. R ALWAYS had to wait until the car or until we got home to open anything. Sometimes the clerk would try and hand her the toy, and I would have to politely ask them to please put it in the bag.
R was not allowed to run around in a restaurant...no talking at movies either.
I sometimes think that parents get lazy when teaching manners. (not my friends in general. I'm talking about the population at large)
I am a self-confessed, very strict mom. Even my mom has commented on it...I think I have relaxed a little over time.
R and I do banter quite a bit, and she does give me more lip than I like at times, and I'm glad that she doesn't feel squashed when it comes to her opinions. She's also a pit bull when she wants something. Gah but that child can nag you to death. Of course, she never gets what she wants that way with me, but her father will occassionally give in. Sigh.
Spanking...I do NOT think it should be outlawed. I think that giving a child the power to put a parent in jail is not a good idea. For abuse, YES...for spanking? They'll live.
I have spanked R. I will say that it never worked with her, and if I had a do-over I would change it. IMHO it doesn't work. We work more on action/consequence now, and it works pretty well.
Oreos or Fruit and Veg??? OMG...Rachel would choose Oreos *almost* every time. 8-10 years ago she would choose Oreos EVERY time. But that's why *I'm* still here.
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Date: 2007-11-28 06:24 pm (UTC)I had a very strict upbringing and I think both my brother and myself turned out pretty well.
R is a voracious reader...I monitor what she reads and occassionally I even pick up one of her books and read it myself to keep up with what she's taking in (Vampire novels are her current fav...You'd be surprised at how many HS vamp novels there are!). I monitor what she does on the web, what she watches on TV. Once she's older, these restrictions will relax, but I believe in very active participation in what my child does.
I remember when R was young and we were in line at a Toys R Us...the mother behind us let her son open a toy that they had not bought yet. That drives me NUTS. R ALWAYS had to wait until the car or until we got home to open anything. Sometimes the clerk would try and hand her the toy, and I would have to politely ask them to please put it in the bag.
R was not allowed to run around in a restaurant...no talking at movies either.
I sometimes think that parents get lazy when teaching manners. (not my friends in general. I'm talking about the population at large)
I am a self-confessed, very strict mom. Even my mom has commented on it...I think I have relaxed a little over time.
R and I do banter quite a bit, and she does give me more lip than I like at times, and I'm glad that she doesn't feel squashed when it comes to her opinions. She's also a pit bull when she wants something. Gah but that child can nag you to death. Of course, she never gets what she wants that way with me, but her father will occassionally give in. Sigh.
Spanking...I do NOT think it should be outlawed. I think that giving a child the power to put a parent in jail is not a good idea. For abuse, YES...for spanking? They'll live.
I have spanked R. I will say that it never worked with her, and if I had a do-over I would change it. IMHO it doesn't work. We work more on action/consequence now, and it works pretty well.
Oreos or Fruit and Veg??? OMG...Rachel would choose Oreos *almost* every time. 8-10 years ago she would choose Oreos EVERY time. But that's why *I'm* still here.
My 2 cents.