I'm not a parent (Yet) but I have worked in child care. I actually started babysitting at the tender age of 11! I think that is a reflection on how mature and responsible I was, being the caretaker I am lol. Anyway, what I've noticed over the years is that in general there seems to be a lack of parents setting boundaries for their children and instead of being a parent they allow their children to make the rules and dictate how things go.
Now I come from a rather sheltered background, bedtime was early and in high school 9pm even as a Senior! Although I think the folks relaxed it a bit then, I don't recall. Of course I was also a rather shy girl, I rarely went out and the only trouble I got into was detention for not bringing my gym clothes in on gym day. What a trouble maker LOL I had my moments of being a brat but I think over all I was a pleasure to my folks. Now my oldest brother was the one always pushing the boundaries and getting in trouble and my two younger brothers were reffered to as the destructo duo lol, my folks already had their hands full with the three of them. Even when we were naughty or whatnot we had the structure of our family and the rules my folks put into place. Sure we tested those but we didn't dictate what was what. A certain look or tone would often be enough to keep us in line. I was spanked ONCE, that is all it took.
I think in general today parents resort right to the spanking. I know it's easy for me to sit back and say , "well this is what you should do and spanking shouldn't be the first resort to discipline.", I don't have kids but even I see the value of setting limits and boundaries etc.. I also think there is a great lack of respect with kids these days, they just don't respect their elders , themselves or anyone really. It's sad and it is always so refreshing to witness what I consider 'good parenting' when all I see around me is chaos! I've seen people in public around here just start whopping on their whiney kids when they aren't listening to their parents. And way is it that noone takes into consideration that the whiney child is probably tired b/c it's after midnight and they are not in bed? Oh that one just drives me nuts, school aged kids out past midnight with their folks on a school night. Again, I know it's easy to point things out as I'm not a parent but it surely has made me and Scott think about and talk about how we want to parent when the time comes, just hope we can practice what we want to preach lol
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Date: 2007-11-29 12:12 am (UTC)I'm not a parent (Yet) but I have worked in child care. I actually started babysitting at the tender age of 11! I think that is a reflection on how mature and responsible I was, being the caretaker I am lol. Anyway, what I've noticed over the years is that in general there seems to be a lack of parents setting boundaries for their children and instead of being a parent they allow their children to make the rules and dictate how things go.
Now I come from a rather sheltered background, bedtime was early and in high school 9pm even as a Senior! Although I think the folks relaxed it a bit then, I don't recall. Of course I was also a rather shy girl, I rarely went out and the only trouble I got into was detention for not bringing my gym clothes in on gym day. What a trouble maker LOL I had my moments of being a brat but I think over all I was a pleasure to my folks. Now my oldest brother was the one always pushing the boundaries and getting in trouble and my two younger brothers were reffered to as the destructo duo lol, my folks already had their hands full with the three of them. Even when we were naughty or whatnot we had the structure of our family and the rules my folks put into place. Sure we tested those but we didn't dictate what was what. A certain look or tone would often be enough to keep us in line. I was spanked ONCE, that is all it took.
I think in general today parents resort right to the spanking. I know it's easy for me to sit back and say , "well this is what you should do and spanking shouldn't be the first resort to discipline.", I don't have kids but even I see the value of setting limits and boundaries etc..
I also think there is a great lack of respect with kids these days, they just don't respect their elders , themselves or anyone really. It's sad and it is always so refreshing to witness what I consider 'good parenting' when all I see around me is chaos! I've seen people in public around here just start whopping on their whiney kids when they aren't listening to their parents. And way is it that noone takes into consideration that the whiney child is probably tired b/c it's after midnight and they are not in bed? Oh that one just drives me nuts, school aged kids out past midnight with their folks on a school night. Again, I know it's easy to point things out as I'm not a parent but it surely has made me and Scott think about and talk about how we want to parent when the time comes, just hope we can practice what we want to preach lol