I had a reconciliation with a meanie recently. I received a freind request on Facebook out of the blue from this woman I hadn't spoken to in 25 years and didn't want to. We had been default friends in elementary school because she lived across the street. We had a massive falling out in Jr. High because she was just plain mean. I was wary about firending her back, but the first message I got from her was a touching and heartfelt apology for how she had treated me and my family. She thinks it was abuse by her father (who admitted to beating her and her sister with a belt) that made her turn her anger inwards and be so mean. She says she has grown a lot and worked through many of her problems. She is now very religious and has a husband and three children and seems happy.
I was astonished. I accepted her apology and it felt great to let that old grudge go.
So yes, mean people suck, but apparently some of them can grow out of it. I wish your ex-friend luck in this regard.
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Date: 2009-05-21 09:32 pm (UTC)I had a reconciliation with a meanie recently. I received a freind request on Facebook out of the blue from this woman I hadn't spoken to in 25 years and didn't want to. We had been default friends in elementary school because she lived across the street. We had a massive falling out in Jr. High because she was just plain mean. I was wary about firending her back, but the first message I got from her was a touching and heartfelt apology for how she had treated me and my family. She thinks it was abuse by her father (who admitted to beating her and her sister with a belt) that made her turn her anger inwards and be so mean. She says she has grown a lot and worked through many of her problems. She is now very religious and has a husband and three children and seems happy.
I was astonished. I accepted her apology and it felt great to let that old grudge go.
So yes, mean people suck, but apparently some of them can grow out of it. I wish your ex-friend luck in this regard.
You. Somebody's lackey. Hahahahahaha!