Apparently women (the Big A's anyway) look at me and judge my character. They assume that I feel confident, I don't trash-talk myself, that I have some sort of internal well-spring of strength that prevents me from ever doubting myself.
One of the psychological traps that holds people back and comforts them is: "If' she's somehow an entirely different type of person inside than me, then I don't have to take any responsibility for not acting like she does." The flip side of the belief is that, as long as they hold it, they can't give you credit for what you go through (and have gone through) to get where you are.
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Date: 2009-08-07 02:57 pm (UTC)One of the psychological traps that holds people back and comforts them is: "If' she's somehow an entirely different type of person inside than me, then I don't have to take any responsibility for not acting like she does." The flip side of the belief is that, as long as they hold it, they can't give you credit for what you go through (and have gone through) to get where you are.