I was asked by a few individuals what happened in regards to your post, so I thought I would I would simply post my response here.
First, I would like to say that I completely agree with you regarding your below quoted sentiment:
“…there are a bunch of people whose SCA goals are clearly at the top of their list and I was shocked at the amount of energy they put into gaining good opinions, schmoozing the right people, and trying to find out what others think about them. Really? Really! Wow! That's what you spend your time worrying about? And here I was thinking "get out of debt so that I don't end up on the street if I lose my job" was a worthy item to keep me awake at night.”
I too often wonder if people seemingly so interested in what I would call “stirring the pot” have nothing better to do with their day! There are SO many better ways one could be channeling their energy in the mundane world to make a positive difference!) You and I seem to see eye to eye here!
I also want to say how sorry I am that you seem to have had such a negative experience with my soon to be brother-in-law! In an effort to resolve certain hard feelings, I would offer you a bit of context to our visit to your friend’s room.
While we were down in the lounge, Uther and Ed were given a room number of an “awesome party!” by a few individuals that they were advised to check out. These individuals did not mention who the room belonged too. So straightaway, Uther and Ed grabbed myself and a few others, as they thought that they had gotten a sound invite to a good party!
Upon getting to the room, we noticed that the door was propped open by the lock. We peeked in and saw people gathered, so given the previous invite, we thought it was ok to enter. I was happy to see Aminah and immediately went over to chat with her (she did such a fabulous job autocratting!)
I notice that the party is rather sedate so I was in the process of “checking in” with Aminah to see if it was winding down (she said it was quiet but that we were welcome to take a seat and hang out/chat with them).
The next thing I know, Edward is leaving, saying that we’d been “kicked out.” At that point, not knowing the circumstances, we all immediately followed after him and left. We did not want to be involved in/create any drama or conflict. Again, I do apologize that you felt we intruded on your private get-together, but please know that there was no malice intended. We had thought we’d had a legitimate invitation.
I also want to commend your husband, as he did an incredibly sweet thing this morning when he came up to me to apologize (although there was truly no need) and explain that being “kicked out” of the room truly had nothing to do with myself or with Uther. Your husband is a gem!
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Date: 2010-01-11 03:47 am (UTC)I was asked by a few individuals what happened in regards to your post, so I thought I would I would simply post my response here.
First, I would like to say that I completely agree with you regarding your below quoted sentiment:
“…there are a bunch of people whose SCA goals are clearly at the top of their list and I was shocked at the amount of energy they put into gaining good opinions, schmoozing the right people, and trying to find out what others think about them. Really? Really! Wow! That's what you spend your time worrying about? And here I was thinking "get out of debt so that I don't end up on the street if I lose my job" was a worthy item to keep me awake at night.”
I too often wonder if people seemingly so interested in what I would call “stirring the pot” have nothing better to do with their day! There are SO many better ways one could be channeling their energy in the mundane world to make a positive difference!) You and I seem to see eye to eye here!
I also want to say how sorry I am that you seem to have had such a negative experience with my soon to be brother-in-law! In an effort to resolve certain hard feelings, I would offer you a bit of context to our visit to your friend’s room.
While we were down in the lounge, Uther and Ed were given a room number of an “awesome party!” by a few individuals that they were advised to check out. These individuals did not mention who the room belonged too. So straightaway, Uther and Ed grabbed myself and a few others, as they thought that they had gotten a sound invite to a good party!
Upon getting to the room, we noticed that the door was propped open by the lock. We peeked in and saw people gathered, so given the previous invite, we thought it was ok to enter. I was happy to see Aminah and immediately went over to chat with her (she did such a fabulous job autocratting!)
I notice that the party is rather sedate so I was in the process of “checking in” with Aminah to see if it was winding down (she said it was quiet but that we were welcome to take a seat and hang out/chat with them).
The next thing I know, Edward is leaving, saying that we’d been “kicked out.” At that point, not knowing the circumstances, we all immediately followed after him and left. We did not want to be involved in/create any drama or conflict. Again, I do apologize that you felt we intruded on your private get-together, but please know that there was no malice intended. We had thought we’d had a legitimate invitation.
I also want to commend your husband, as he did an incredibly sweet thing this morning when he came up to me to apologize (although there was truly no need) and explain that being “kicked out” of the room truly had nothing to do with myself or with Uther. Your husband is a gem!
Warmest Regards,
~Kara