If it's not a potluck, I assume they're feeding me, and that they want to. I always offer to bring something, like wine or a dessert. If it's someone we don't have an Established Dining Relationship with, I'll bring wine anyway. Himself likes to cook, so we usuall do that when people come over, but sometimes we go out especially if we all feel like Chinese Food. When I invite someone over it's because I want to, and if they feel like bringing something extra it's always nice but never required or expected, unless arrangements are made ahead of time. Some guests ask to help clean up, but again, I didn't invite them over to do housework - but the offer is nice. I always ask to help clean up if it's a big dinner party. Finally, there is one rule at my house, and it's easy: DON'T BE AN ASSHOLE.
All of this is pretty much how I was raised - my Mom bequeathed me her hostess-freakiness (everything must be PERFECT!).
A question back at you, since we're on the subject: what do you do when the food you're being served is horrible? (Not horrible as in "I'm allergic!", but horrible as in "this is swill!") Are your personal rules different at SCA feasts?
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Date: 2006-10-11 01:48 am (UTC)All of this is pretty much how I was raised - my Mom bequeathed me her hostess-freakiness (everything must be PERFECT!).
A question back at you, since we're on the subject: what do you do when the food you're being served is horrible? (Not horrible as in "I'm allergic!", but horrible as in "this is swill!") Are your personal rules different at SCA feasts?