We do practice role playing for a lot of things. (Like turning in homework, which was a HUGE challenge at one point). I had him come up with 3 strategies for avoiding confrontations and/or for dealing with them last time around. Then we practiced them with role-playing. He's normally really good at using what he learns from this. I think the challenge with this situation is that he needs to be in the state of mind when he's surprised into anger/fear. When he can see it coming or it's happening at home (his safe place), he's great. It's when someone comes up and unexpectedly does something to him outside of home that he strikes. ALthough we talk and practice and reiterate our values, I can't bring myself to "jump" him so that he can work on his knee-jerk reactions.
I've decided he's going to get to pull weeds on Sunday as well. I think a bout of manual labor will give him a chance to dwell on what he did wrong. It worked with me. I will probably do it with him. good bonding/talking time.
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Date: 2009-11-19 09:41 pm (UTC)I've decided he's going to get to pull weeds on Sunday as well. I think a bout of manual labor will give him a chance to dwell on what he did wrong. It worked with me. I will probably do it with him. good bonding/talking time.