Respect vs Approval
Jul. 15th, 2010 02:58 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
threadwalkerThere is a difference between having someone's respect and having someone's approval. You can even respect someone without approving them; I respect the skills of many immoral people without approving their application (the Moriarties of the world).. I like respect and I like it better when it's mutual.
Approval? I'm not sure I really worry about approval anymore. I think that having approval was more important to me when I was young(er).
It's an interesting progression. I suspect it's linked to if you have enough life experiences that require you to examine your motivations and values, challenge your self-esteem and prompt you to question the validity of the people who you admire.
I'm curious to what others think. Was there a time when approval was more important? Why did it change?
Or, if approval is still plays a role in your life, how does it enrich you? What do you learn about yourself through the approval of others?
How about respect? Same questions.
Approval? I'm not sure I really worry about approval anymore. I think that having approval was more important to me when I was young(er).
It's an interesting progression. I suspect it's linked to if you have enough life experiences that require you to examine your motivations and values, challenge your self-esteem and prompt you to question the validity of the people who you admire.
I'm curious to what others think. Was there a time when approval was more important? Why did it change?
Or, if approval is still plays a role in your life, how does it enrich you? What do you learn about yourself through the approval of others?
How about respect? Same questions.
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Date: 2010-07-16 03:15 am (UTC)Respect for what you do.
Approval for what you are.
Respect for evil people is fear.
Respect for good people is trust.
You may accomplish a lot, but that won't make people love you.
There are some jobs (when done correctly) will never let people trust you.
Smart people know the difference between the job and the person.
I think the need for public approval fades over time as we get more jaded, and our lives tend to seperate us from our friends over time. Some folks need the roar of the approval of the crowd to function.