Feedback welcome: on parenting
Jan. 24th, 2008 01:48 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
threadwalkerMy current question:
I see a ton of teens getting out of high school with no idea what to do with their lives. They hate school, so they don't go to college. Or they go to Junior College and putter around there for 10 years or so. To me, they appear directionless and with no drive to do anything with their lives.
I want my kids to pick a career path or vocation, regardless whether it involved college (although I prefer them to go to college). I want them to grow up, move out, and be big people in the big-people world. How do I get my kids to choose a life path that doens't involve laying on my sofa watching TV or plugging into computer games and guzzling Purple Flrup(1)?
All thoughts and feedback welcome. Feel free to ramble. You don't need to be a parent to have an opinion or insights.
Later I'll post what I've already started doing. I suspect the soft-fuzzy folks who prefer to solve family conflict with cookies and hugs will think of my house as being run by the Boot-Camp Mom from Hell.
(1) Jimmy Neutron reference.
I see a ton of teens getting out of high school with no idea what to do with their lives. They hate school, so they don't go to college. Or they go to Junior College and putter around there for 10 years or so. To me, they appear directionless and with no drive to do anything with their lives.
I want my kids to pick a career path or vocation, regardless whether it involved college (although I prefer them to go to college). I want them to grow up, move out, and be big people in the big-people world. How do I get my kids to choose a life path that doens't involve laying on my sofa watching TV or plugging into computer games and guzzling Purple Flrup(1)?
All thoughts and feedback welcome. Feel free to ramble. You don't need to be a parent to have an opinion or insights.
Later I'll post what I've already started doing. I suspect the soft-fuzzy folks who prefer to solve family conflict with cookies and hugs will think of my house as being run by the Boot-Camp Mom from Hell.
(1) Jimmy Neutron reference.
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Date: 2008-01-24 12:01 am (UTC)I did more of the constant employment thing...even with jobs that sucked. College didn't really help or hinder me, but I was persistent and finished to please my dad.
I think that making the house a less comfortable place is the key...make them plot and scheme and desire to leave! I know two of my cousins barely stayed home through high-school, they wanted to work in Hawaii... and away they went. I wish my folks had done that to my sister... but I wanted to leave for my own reasons of independence.